3 Important Lessons About The Sacredness Of Grief

Your spirit is resilient. Even when met with grief, you can endure. Here are three things to consider about the sacred relationship between grief and love.

3 Important Lessons About The Sacredness Of Grief
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 Grief is a reality of life. It's proof of our love, and although we sometimes experience loss too often or too soon, there's power in embracing grief's sacredness. 

Grief Is Love 

To grieve means we have loved. In “Grief Is Love,” author Marisa Renee Lee explains, "Love doesn't die, and that is why we grieve…" Lee urges us to understand grief doesn't erase love. When living with loss, we must remember God's love for us and our love for ourselves. 

Grief Is Sacred 

Dr. Jennifer Mullan of Decolonizing Therapy teaches that grief is sacred, not a sign of weakness or a dirty word. Coloniality teaches that grief is a one-size-fits-all experience, but it's not. There isn't a proper way to grieve. We must only follow our spirits. 

Grief Is Ritual 

Rituals can help us manage grief. Dr. Mullan recommends creating a grief ritual, like bringing offerings to an ocean or river and writing down what you wish to release. Mullan encourages us to consider ancestral knowledge of grief with this question: "How have your elders, your culture, your healers seen and navigated grief?"

Grief Requires Grace

Grief is about extending grace for ourselves and others. How can you show up graciously for someone who is experiencing grief? We can see grief differently from the what coloniality has taught. Like everything else, our grief is ours to define. 

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